I have never thought about the photographers needs before until I read "10 things your Wedding Photographer secretly wishes you'd tell him".
I understand all of the points raised but if your photographer is a woman does this make a difference?
There is one thing that I ask my guests to do is to make a list of the groups of people that they would like to have pictures of - there is NOTHING worse than leaving someone out (sometimes).
Make a list of what you feel that you MUST need, also some people from different generations like it and if they are paying?